Kink Allied, Sex Positive Counsellor & Mentor

Welcome to a Journey of Exploration and Acceptance
Discover Your True Sexual Identity with Confidence and Joy with Thomas Dignam


Welcome to our Kink Allied, Sex Positive Counselling & Mentorship. In this safe and affirming space, individuals and couples are invited to explore and embrace their sexual identities and preferences. The approach is deeply rooted in understanding, acceptance, and empowerment, providing a supportive environment for exploring kink, BDSM, polyamory, and other facets of sexuality. It's designed to guide and assist in navigating through a diverse range of sexual and lifestyle choices, with a focus on personal authenticity, pleasure, and well-being.

Origins and Philosophy

The practice of kink allied, sex positive therapy stems from the understanding that human sexuality and lifestyle choices are diverse and complex. This field acknowledges the fluidity and spectrum of sexual expression and lifestyle preferences. It's rooted in the belief that exploring and accepting one's sexual identity and preferences is crucial for overall emotional and psychological health.

Your Therapist

As a specialist in sexual awakening, my role as an accredited coach & therapist is grounded in extensive experience addressing a wide range of common sexual challenges, including sexual dysfunctions and blocks. My philosophy extends beyond mere treatment; I adopt a holistic approach, educating clients on an enhanced and enlightened way to experience sex. These sexual challenges often stem from cultural misunderstandings and misconceptions about sexuality and sexual activities. I advocate for safe, consensual, and informed practices, promoting acceptance and knowledge in these often-misunderstood areas.

I offer a unique, holistic approach to sex, catering to both individuals and couples. This method is designed for those who seek to tangibly improve their sexual experiences. It is an experiential and direct approach, focusing on practical, holistic centred therapies that facilitate sexual healing.

My practice ensures a safe and structured environment, where clients receive expert guidance and advice. This supportive setting is crucial for fostering genuine healing and growth in one's sexual journey.

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Focus Areas

Sexual Identity and Wellness

Assisting individuals in understanding and embracing their sexual identity.

Sexual Awakening

Guiding clients towards a deeper awareness and expression of their sexuality.

Lifestyle Exploration

Covering a broad spectrum, including naturism, different forms of polyamory such as polyandry, polygyny, and polygamy, as well as ethical non-monogamy (ENM).

BDSM and Kink

Providing a safe space to explore BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism) and various kink practices, focusing on consensual and healthy exploration.

Techniques and Methodologies

The approach is highly individualised, addressing each client's unique needs and preferences. Techniques may include:

Individual Counselling: Personalised sessions to explore sexual identity, self-acceptance, and barriers to sexual fulfilment.

Couples Counselling: Enhancing communication and exploration in relationships, deepening connections, and exploring new dimensions.

Educational Workshops: Group sessions on kink, polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, and more.

Mentorship Programs: Ongoing support for deeper understanding and practice of sexual identities.

My Approach

Empathetic Listening and Open Communication: A welcoming atmosphere for discussing desires and concerns.

Holistic Techniques: Combining mindfulness, NLP, and body-awareness practices for enhanced self-understanding.

Sex Positive Education: Knowledge and resources for safe, consensual, and fulfilling experiences.

Community Support and Resources: Connections to a broader community for additional exploration.


Clients often find that exploring and embracing their sexual identity and lifestyle preferences leads to:

Improved self-esteem and body image

Deeper intimacy and connection in relationships

Enhanced sexual satisfaction.

Reduced sexual dysfunction and anxieties.

Greater overall life satisfaction.


This therapy is suitable for individuals and couples regardless of their sexual orientation, gender identity, or relationship status. It's beneficial for those who are seeking to explore and understand their sexuality and lifestyle choices more deeply.

Session Details

Sessions can be conducted in various formats, including one-on-one, couples, or group settings. They may be offered in-person or via online platforms. The duration and frequency of sessions are tailored to the client's needs and goals.


My Service offers a comprehensive and non-judgmental approach to exploring and embracing one's sexual and lifestyle choices. It's a journey towards self-discovery, acceptance, and fulfilment, enabling individuals and couples to live authentically and joyfully.

✔ Services: Solo and Couples Sessions, Programs & Workshops

✔ Prices:

  • Solo - £65 (30 mins), £100 (60 mins), £195 (90 mins)
  • Couples - £100 (30 mins), £180 (60 mins), £300 (90 mins)
  • Programs – 3 months, 6 months, and 9 months
  • Workshops – Group and private workshops online and in person – Ticket Prices available when live.